Peter's "More Than These"

There is a fantastic story recorded in John's gospel, right at the very end. Peter (the one who denied Jesus on the night he was assasinated) is overjoyed to see the resurrected Jesus, so he jumps into the lake to swim to shore to see him, clothes and all. You have to love that.

After a brief meal, Jesus gets right to it: "Peter, do you love me more than these?"

My question:

What are Peter's "these?" And why does he love them so much that Jesus has to ask him if he loves him "more" than them?

Was he talking about the other disciples?
Was he talking about the fish?
Was he talking about Peter's family?

I have a theory: We aren't supposed to know. There isn't an "answer." Peter's "more than these" is just a way for Jesus to ask him if there is room for Jesus to be at the top of the list. I don't think Jesus is a needy, narcisistic co dependent who needs to be loved. I do think Jesus wants Peter's absolute, utter attention and devotion, because the agenda of Jesus is that important.

What are my "more than these?" What are the things that seem un-throw-away-able so much that I crowd the agenda of Jesus out of my life? It's not that I can't have some "these" in my life, it's just that Jesus is the ultimate pragmatist. It's like he's saying that he is the best way to experience the best possible life. Somehow, to give myself over fully to a man named Jesus who loved tax collectors and prostitutes and who yelled at religious people a lot is the way towards life. I know, I know, even that sounds cliche-ish, like something you might hear at a baptist revival ("All to Jesus, I surrender...).

I don't want to love Jesus becuase of the Bible or because some speaker tells me to. I want to love Jesus because of the compelling nature of the call that he still gives out.

"Do you love me more than these?"

it's almost like a dare.